Overcoming Fear

Emotions aren’t good or bad, positive or negative; they are simply a picture of where we are. Sometimes our emotions might be a warning or signal that something might need attention. The action we attribute to the emotion is what matters. Often, our emotions are showing us a doorway to a choice or maybe a decision that needs to be made.

Joy is an emotion we all experience and is so wonderful when we do. When we experience joy it brings with it comfort and peace and happiness – we all love joy. But what about fear – is fear always bad?

No, I don’t think so.

Hear me out on this one.

(Yes, there is a spirit of fear but that is not what I’m referring to here.)

I believe the emotion of fear is simply another “notification” that something might be up. It is one of those things that require us to use discernment to navigate. We may need to ask, what is our response to that fear? Do we choose courage and boldness or do we back away, give in and let it consume us?

Fear will always require boldness and courage to get beyond.

Of course, sometimes fear is to warn us of real danger, like don’t go into that alleyway! Other times fear is something we must overcome or conqueror. In that case, we can’t let fear stop us! Instead, we have to confront it, become bold and jump over it and continue past it. Fear will often subside (or depart) if you confront it.

I often think of fear as the snake lying across the threshold of my path. It’s there reminding me of all the ways I will fail, reminding me of all the “what if’s” I never even thought of – basically throwing lies at me to see if I will react, to see if I can be stopped.

When I was a child, I played in the woods behind my house all the time and let me tell you, there were snakes out there too. My friends and I built tree houses and forts from scraps of lumber we got from the construction sites of houses being built in the neighborhood. Every time we built a new fort, we also made a new path to it. Often, and I mean weekly, we would encounter snakes in our path. They were primarily non-poisonous but they were very large – some were upwards of 6′! But as is often the case with kids, boldness and determination to finish a project would rise up and we would back up, take off running and jump over that snake and not look back…mostly because we were too afraid to look!

The point was, we didn’t let that fear stop us – we pushed past it (literally), and continued on.

We can’t let fear stop us either because on the other side of fear lives the fulfillment of our dreams and desires. Fear wants to keep us from our destiny. We can’t let that happen. 
What fear is holding you back today? Is it a past trauma that needs healing? Is it fear of man, the fear that you might not be “enough” in the eyes of others? Whatever it is that is stopping you needs to be confronted and overcome.

I pray that you will be bold and courageous today, standing up to those things in the path that would stop you from being all you are meant to be. I pray that if healing is needed, that it will come with abundance and grace. I pray that if there is help you need in being bold today, that help would come in many unexpected ways. I pray that fear will be overtaken by love and that that love would then pour out of you and drench everyone you meet today. I pray you will get up tomorrow and continue on this journey as you have today, seeking help when needed, and giving help when required. I speak freedom from fear in your life and call you to rise up in the destiny that was created just for you!

Seeing Past Our Circumstances

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“You can’t reason with anxiety, negotiate with doubt, or compromise with fear. They’re like fire, consuming everything in your mind until they leave it darkened and scarred.

When a negative thought begins to burn, you have to overwhelm it with what God is saying about your identity and your circumstances. Jesus said when we receive Him into our lives; we have a constant stream of living water in us. Pursuing what you’ve read in His word, and heard from Him in your heart, releases that river of righteousness, peace, and joy, displacing the negativity in you, and bringing blessing to everyone around you.”

~Rob Coscia

This is in line with some of my meditations and conversations of late. The issue of only seeing the bad things happening to us and being overwhelmed by them when that is exactly what the enemy’s plan is – to distract us and overwhelm us by causing us to only see what he is doing is counter-intuitive to our walk in the Kingdom. And it’s frustrating if you live there!

“Frustration is frustrating” – Paul Wilcox ( Sounds silly but is true none the less)

I don’t know about you but I’m tired of talking about what the enemy is doing or has done! I’m tired of all the frustration when I do!

I am not a victim as the enemy would have me believe, I am victorious. . .

And if I’m not feeling exactly victorious at any given time, I need to re-direct my focus to all the beautiful things God has and is blessing me with – for there are many! My thoughts need to think of those things that are lovely, pleasant and beautiful. I have to get to a place where my eyes are no longer on me. Do I trust God or do I fear (trust) the enemy more? It’s one or the other, it can’t be both.

Because I refuse to worship the enemy, aka only gaze upon him, it doesn’t mean I don’t acknowledge that he’s trying to wreak havoc in my life. No, it means I don’t let it stop me from doing the things I want to do, the things I’m called to do and am passionate about.

That is NOT going to happen.

As long as I am able to realize what the enemy is trying to accomplish with his tactics (being wise as a snake and as gentle as a dove), I am able to walk in victorious blessings. It really is up to me. In all things rejoice, is all circumstances bless the Lord. This is true because, “you can’t reason with anxiety, negotiate with doubt, or compromise with fear.” Rob is right about that. “When a negative thought begins to burn, you have to overwhelm it with what God is saying about your identity and your circumstances.”

When we take our eyes off of ourselves we then are free to help others, we then can see a place where we can be an instrument of change in someone else’s life. We then will even begin to see hope arise in our own situations – all because God is working on our “problems” while we help others with theirs.

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Got Fears?

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I belong to a writing group on Facebook; several actually. In one of the groups, a writing prompt was given asking us to name five fears we had and write about it. That is the reason for a writing prompt after all.

I saw the post the first day it was posted but didn’t respond or leave any comments because, to be honest, I didn’t want to think about fears or the fact that I might have any. As if!!

Today as I was “scrolling by” I actually felt a response rise up in me as I read the prompt again. I remembered an incident that had happened in the recent past and that lead me to other realizations.

Isn’t that always the case? What you may have been avoiding or at least avoid admitting, is something that needs facing so we can get healed. And as is the case many times, someone else has experienced this same thing. When we have the courage to share and be transparent, it has the potential to bless and encourage many.

What I realized while reading the prompt was that I sometimes have a fear of being found out. What I mean by that is when someone encourages me or blesses me or even compliments me, I sometimes feel like I don’t deserve it. I feel like they don’t really know who I am. There’s a fear that they may find out who I am and be disappointed or repulsed by me. Or they may discover I’m not at all who they thought I was.

Those voices can be so convincing!

Of course, it’s absolutely irrational to listen to lies and base who I am on those things but there is nothing rational about fear! Fear is on the outside and when I listen to its whisperings or agree with the lies it speaks, I have allowed it inside.

Fear will lie to me about my identity every single time. And actually, that’s a really important key to overcoming this. When I’m firmly grounded in who I am, fear can’t touch me.

I know that I know, I am worthy and I am who HE says I am…and how can that be anything but awesome? But fear can somehow make me forget all the things I know and convinces me that I need to fear man, to even crave the approval of man – while at the same time telling me that I’m not worthy of even that approval.

Fear whispers that it is man’s approval we need and perverts any affirmations and encouragement we receive from others. We all need affirmation and encouragement and it’s not the same thing as approval, not at all.

When I was planning the trip to NC to go see Praying Medic on the Sid Roth show I had a really hard time with this fear issue. I kept hearing these whispers in my head saying, “What if they find out you’re not who they thought you were? What if they don’t like you? What if they think you’re a fake?” All these things began to swirl around in my thoughts and at times were almost overwhelming to the point I wanted to cancel the trip.

Fortunately, God is bigger than fear. I began to still myself and hear His still small voice wooing me back from the brink of depression (or whatever it was). He began singing over me and reminding me who I am. It was an intervention just in time. I was then able to pull myself up by my bootstraps and ignore those lies. I was able to confess the truth about myself. And I was able to go to NC and celebrate a great friend being celebrated!

I have since discovered that as long as I’m being authentically me, warts and all, I will be fine. People will love me or even like me according to their own will, not mine. And it was a great lesson to learn, and sometimes, re-learn.

When we are able to walk in our true identities, we can allow others to love us and even like us. And we are also able to love others right where they are. None of us are perfect but another thing I’ve realized is this: We tend to show more love and encouragement to others than we do towards ourselves. That’s really skewed because the scripture tells us to love our neighbor as ourselves and that means if we can’t love and encourage us, how can we do the same to them – we can’t. It’s that simple.

The lesson learned is that if we don’t feel good enough, pretty enough, smart enough or whatever enough, we need to tell those voices to depart. Turn around and listen to what God says about you. Quiet those voices and be still. I promise you, you will hear Him singing over you…right, where you are.

Today, fear is far from me.

If you find that this resonates with you, know that you are an amazing person! Are you perfect? Heck no, who is? But you are loved and needed and you have things to contribute that will be missing if you don’t escape those lies. Freedom to be who you are is your inheritance. Let’s walk in that. Hey, better yet; let’s DANCE in that! Come on, be encouraged, and be awesome!